Good way of putting it.
I think any chance talk about the implications of choices like these with boys and girls alike is valuable.
In my mind this is not an issue of who’s to blame and who’s doing something wrong, but what’s appropriate and what sets the right message in a boarding school context.
I appreciate that you understand both the student/teacher perspective in this instance. I would definitely feel the same way about boys who wanted to make apparel with a similarly natured message. The ballot is a good idea - thanks!
I appreciate your point of view on this, but I’m not sure why you’re “surprised”; I’m also not sure why you assume you know my thinking. The only thing I said in my post that would indicate my thinking is that “I feel it’s a bad idea.” I didn’t say why I felt that way.
I posed the scenario because I wanted to see what were some reasonable ways of thinking about the situation. You’ll see from all the responses (tumblr notes) that there are many different ways of looking at it. My goal was to use those perspectives to make an informed opinion.
So some girls on the softball team at the high school I work at want to get sports bras that say “second base” on them. This feels like a bad idea to me and also to one of my colleagues. What do you think: agree or disagree? What do you think is the best advice/ talking points to bring up with the girls?
Update: wanted to answer some of the questions. First, the purchase would happen as a team. Team apparel is a big thing here on our campus. Usually someone organizing an apparel purchase like this needs to get enough buy in from the team to make a sizable order. Not sure if the school would pay for any of it, but any purchase of apparel would be assumed by others to have the okay/approval by a faculty member advising that group- in this case their coach.
Second, the intention is that they would be worn to be seen, like during practice or something. One worry is that perhaps not all the girls would feel comfortable with the message it sends? The girls understand that it’s clever and has sexual undertones.
—people have been posting comments/questions about this to my askbox, so I’ve put the responses under the tag #secondbase.